The Van Ness Recovery House has been serving the LGBTQ community since it first opened its doors on Van Ness Avenue, in 1973, making it the oldest recovery house serving the LGBTQ community in the nation today. LGBTQ alcoholics and addicts had access to help, substance abuse treatment, and were able to attend 12-step meetings during a time when same sex behavior was illegal in the U.S. (same sex behavior was not legalized until 1976).
In early 1986, the Van Ness Recovery House moved to its current location on 1919 North Beachwood Drive, where it continues to be a beacon of hope for those who suffer from addiction and want help.
Kathy Watt, the program’s executive director, and former client, is in the trenches of early recovery. I interviewed Watt a few years back for The Fight Magazine. Her remarks on addiction in the LGBT community, the dangers of dark, secret and anonymous sex, HIV/AIDS, and what it takes to remain a healthy, self-supporting, clean and sober member of society, still ring true today.
For many, The Van Ness Recovery House is the last house on the block when seeking recovery from addiction. It continues to be a safe place that LGBTQ people, and heterosexual as well, can call home.
This interview is not online. It really should be. So here it is:
What sets the Van Ness House apart from other recovery houses?
Since Van Ness Recovery House started in 1973, the most unique components are that the program targets a specialized population that didn’t have treatment options, those being gay men and lesbians, which has since expanded to LGBTQ and also heterosexual. The second part that’s unique is that we’re here to rehabilitate you. We don’t babysit you, or get you off the street and dry you up and give you some tools to stay sober.
What do you mean by rehabilitation?
Rehabilitation means that while you enter the program, you may need the support of public funding to help pay for your treatment and get you back on your feet. It is part of our program to get each individual prepared to go out and get a job. Sending you to the streets without any structure, without being self-supporting, having a job will not gain you the self-esteem that comes from taking care of yourself, because prior to sobriety, where you were taking from family, friends, society, those feelings are really only repaired and you’re only able to forgive yourself if you get back on track and give back to society by footing the bill for yourself.
When did you become a resident at the Van Ness Recovery House?
I came in here 2 months after the house had moved to Beachwood after being on Van Ness in 1976 and I completed the program.
Did you stay sober after you completing the program?
No. I had too much false pride. I was 7 months sober, it was the night before I turned 30; I was ironing my pants to go to a Monday night [12 step] meeting and a guy knocked on my door and asked me if I wanted to get high. I spent the night doing coke and I was sober as sober could be. I knew there’d come a time when drugs and alcohol would quit working and clearly they had quit working for me. I came back to the house in the morning and the program director said to me, ‘You need to just do the program.’ And so my sponsor and I worked the steps and on me accepting being a lesbian. And I stayed sober.
A former resident returned to the house to pass away here. How did this impact the residents in the house?
At the beginning of HIV/AIDS, Van Ness Recovery House made a commitment. This is your home. In 1985 there were many young men of all ages who got sober knowing they were going to die, purely because they wanted to die sober. I believe you should get to die where you want to, and if we’re your home, then we’re going to be here for you. This past April we had an alumni whose mother called and said her daughter is very near the end. She remembered I told people that if the time came that they were going to pass away, they could come home. I said yes, it’s absolutely true. I got off the phone; I got the residents together and told them exactly what was happening. I told them how [this former resident] came to Van Ness Recovery House as a just turned 18-year-old starting her transition from male to a young teenage woman and that all these years had passed and this is where she wanted to die. So for about three quarters of the residents it was like wow, what an amazing gift. For two of three who themselves have HIV/AIDS and were not sure if getting sober would cause their health to get better or not, they were scared. Whether they were here for six hours of five months, they saw firsthand that this is home. We are family. By the time she had been here two days, every resident was willing to do anything they could to make her comfortable. Her passing was peaceful. It was quick.
Would you say it’s harder for transgender people to stay sober?
It is a bigger struggle for any quote-on-quote specialized, different, non-mainstream drug addict to stay sober. Anyone who has something for which society will judge, marginalize or oppress, I believe has a tougher time, because you just have more issues, more parts of who you are to talk through, write through, and you need more trust that it will be OK—but having said all that, does it make it impossible? No. If somebody comes in and they’re willing to be open-minded, they can stay sober. I don’t think anybody is such a special case that being sober is not an option for them.
Do you deal with a lot of internalized homophobia?
The people that cross the thresholds of the Van Ness House can say they’re gay, lesbian, transgender, or just say they’re an alcoholic addict. Admitting is not the problem, it’s the accepting and asking what are the parts of yourself that you’re willing to throw away, don’t believe you can accept as equal and therefore you will continue to do the patterns of behaviors that are destructive. Many people come here thinking they get rejected because they are gay or transgendered, but once the consistency of sobriety happens and we become that son, brother, sister family member that shows up…what our sexuality, sexual orientation, or gender is—very few families care. The idea that their family member is no longer killing themselves is what matters, but that takes a long time and so until that time comes and if it never comes, we are home.
What are your biggest challenges in the work that you do?
Keeping the doors open is tough. But our doors have never closed.
What are the benefits?
Watching people’s lives change. Watching people become the person they never dreamed was possible. Watching people fulfill what they thought were crazy wild ideas come to fruition. When someone goes home and their family opens their door and they remember coming here as residents and saying their family will never talk to them again. Watching the miracles happen.
To learn more about the services of The Van Ness Recovery House, visit: www.vannessrecoveryhouse.com